Being Mom, Wife, Cook, Maid, and a Career Woman

Nov 21, 2014

No one ever told me growing up that having a family and career would be like juggling glass bottles. I new from a little girl I wanted to be a mom. There was also that part that my family instilled in me, to have a career and be successful. What I thought my career choice would be was completely changed once my first son was born. I wanted to travel and be a writer. Well, once my baby was born and I had to learn how to breastfeed, change diapers survive days without much sleep and just be mommy all of those expectations where put on hold. I began to realize why I loved babies so much as a child and why I was always intrigued by pregnant women. Soon I started to realize my passion, my inspiration my future as a birthworker. Full speed ahead and 9 years later i'm the proud mommy of 2 funny incredibly smart boys. Besides being extremely busy with them I am also a career women. Sometimes trying to balance the 2 can be a roller coaster ride filled with tons of twist and turns and sometimes bumps in the road. There should be some kind of school or training to prepare you for such a task. If you focus on work too often you lose out on time with your family. If you focus on your family it can take away from your work. What is the right time for both? This is constantly the question I have and other mommies in this situation too. The moms who completely focus on there career and barely spend time with the family are considered bad moms. Why? Has it ever occurred to those people that maybe she is focusing so much because she is trying to provide for her family so that they can have an easier life in the future?  Or maybe she herself is hurting from not seeing her family as often but knows in her heart she is doing the best she can. Then on the other side of it, moms who leave there career to be a stay at home mom. There are still those negative people who say, why would she study for so long or sacrifice her career to be home? This is what society is teaching little girls and eventually new mommies have to face this extremely hard decision. This is what many mothers struggle with and it shouldn't be. In my brain I am constantly trying to balance time with my husband, kids and career. I can be cooking and all of a sudden I will walk away from the food to check my emails to make sure I didn't get an update of something I was supposed to do. I cannot tell you how often I literally walk by a full basket of clean laundry that I know needs to be folded and put away. There are nights where I just don't have the energy to put the dishes away or even think about mopping. I have realized that it's OK. The clothes will be there in the morning, the dishes will get put away and the rest will just have to wait. I will make the time they need so that I don't miss anything as they grow. I will set priorities for work and home and make it work however I can. Mothers have enough pressure in this society than to judge themselves for doing the best they can and I for one support doing your best. Even if society doesn't think it's up to there standards. It's OK mommy keep doing your best and stop being so hard on yourself. It took me a while to realize this for myself but I remind myself every day and so should you.